Three Secret Ways to Create Confidence

Have you ever wished for more confidence? If so, you are not alone. We are drawn to it in others, aspire to it for ourselves, but most of the time, never have of it. But in a fast-changing workplace, they require confidence now over ever.

So how do you generate confidence for yourself at work? The secret starts with... well, faking it.

Faking it? Now, don't get me wrong. I am all about bringing your actual, true, authentic self to work each & every day. I think each of us has one-of-a-kind & wonderful superpowers that the world is waiting for. And--in a unusual twist of behavioral science, waiting until you feel confident to act confident keeps you waiting... & waiting... & waiting. Not lovely.

When you put the right tools & habits in place to generate a sense of confidence, a actual state of confidence will follow. So if you'd like to appear (& finally be) more confident, try these secrets.

Try putting the right words in your mouth by saying, "I'm proud of what we have accomplished together" or "It was great to lead my business in delivering our million-dollar results last year." There's lots of ways to speak about your abilities & achievements that feel confident & authentic to you-it takes practice.

one. Put the right words in your mouth
Mom was right that practice makes ideal. But how plenty of of us actually practice saying words that show off our accomplishments in the best light?

If a plain elderly "I don't know" makes you uncomfortable, try something like, "What a nice query! I don't have an equally nice answer. What do you think?" Plenty of aspiring leaders limit their own possibilities by not getting involved in issues or decisions until they feel they have gained knowledge-and that gap can leave them behind.

2. Know you don't must know it all
A immense barrier to confidence is thinking that they must know all the answers, on a regular basis, to be confident about ourselves and our work. But that is not true. In fact, you can draw confidence from knowing you know you don't know.

three. Expect mistakes
Being confident means knowing you'll mess up at some point. (Yes, even you. You are human-it will happen.) The worst part of any mistake is the surprise of it, so when you expect in advance to make mistakes, you have eliminated the surprise.

When mistakes show up, acknowledge them ("ah, there you are-I've been expecting you!"), thank it for its lessons, and move on. This approach can work in organizations, . Ensuring your teams know that you expect a reasonable amount of human error--and that you are confident you'll overcome it-can save a world of panic and accusation when mistakes happen.

Which of these secrets will you try first to generate more of your own confidence? No matter what you try first, don't wait-the world is prepared for you to shine.